They suffer in silence – for weeks, months, sometimes years.
Trapped between fear, humiliation, and love, many women in Malta silently endure unthinkable abuse behind closed doors – until, at last, their courage overcomes their fear and they walk into the Domestic Violence Unit of the Police. Wounded. Broken. But determined to be heard.
Increasingly, these women are reporting a disturbing common pattern: men addicted to extreme pornography – violent, degrading, obsessive – who then attempt to replicate that abuse with their partners.
And what is even more troubling and deserves our urgent, national attention, is that this pattern is not limited to a fringe segment of society. It is infecting the professional class.
Robert Aquilina
Lawyers. Notaries. Men in respected positions of trust and prestige. Beneath the polished veneer, we are seeing a disturbing trend of high-functioning individuals spiraling into violent sexual addiction — and taking it out on their female partners, often in the form of rape disguised as “marital relations.”
When Addiction Becomes Dangerous
Porn addiction is nothing new. But what we’re seeing in Malta today is deeply alarming: men who are not just watching, but who have become desensitized by increasingly violent content, where women are reduced to objects, stripped of dignity and will.
They are no longer seeking intimacy – they are asserting dominance. And when their partners resist or hesitate, they lash out – violently, cruelly, and repeatedly. The damage isn’t just physical. It’s emotional. Spiritual. And long-lasting.
A Pattern of Suffering – And a Silence That Drowns
Many of these women stay silent for years. They blame themselves. They try to “fix” the relationship. They hope “it will pass.” But the abuse escalates – from forced sex to psychological manipulation, from stalking to threats.
When they finally file a police report, it’s not because they stopped loving. It’s because they started loving themselves enough to survive.
We cannot pretend this is rare or irrelevant when professionals entrusted with upholding law, ethics, and public trust are involved in such horror behind closed doors.
A Social Crisis – Not a Private Problem
This is not just a matter for law enforcement. It is a societal failure when a woman feels safer staying silent than speaking out. It is a media failure when pornography is normalized without critical scrutiny. And it is a policy failure when women must wait months for support or justice.
We urgently need national dialogue, professional training on sexual coercion and the psychological effects of extreme content, and stronger funding for Domestic Violence Units – not just to respond, but to prevent.
We Stand With Every Survivor
To every woman enduring this abuse: you are not alone. You are not responsible for his addiction, his violence, or his perversion. You are not weak for staying. And you are not selfish for leaving. You are courageous. And your voice matters.
Robert Aquilina
And to those entrusted to protect — and those who wear suits by day while committing unspeakable acts by night — the time for silence is over. We will expose it. We will speak up.
Support Hotline (Malta):
Victim Support Malta: +356 2122 8333
Women’s Rights Foundation: +356 7970 8611
Emergency (24/7): 112
3 Comments
Yes and prosit for all said, but according to Bishop Frendo abuse victims ahould first forgive before going to the police.
I couldn’t agree more….but is it being alleged that the learned notary has engaged into such nefarious practices?
And is it alleged that notary said his wife got psychiatric deficiency?
Asking a funny commentary